About Me
A 42-year-old eternal optimist, trying to hold it together while navigating the long road of life.
A midwestern transplant to the big city.
A writer/Editor/Marketing type person.
A lover of music, fuzzy animals, romance, intensity, clever wit, her husband and baseball. Not necessarily in that order.
Yearning for a child.
Ellen Redden said,
December 23, 2007 at 10:58 am
Just found your site today — it’s wonderful. Thanks for putting yourself out there. I’m also 42, follistiming my second cycle of IUI. Last month’s waiting period ended with AF on 15 dpi. (I can’t believe I have figured out, let alone am using, these abbreviations.) That was disappointing enough, so I can’t imagine how painful the last couple of weeks have been for you. I’m sending up prayers for you and your husband. I personally believe we will see our loved ones in Heaven — and I fully believe that God gives people souls very early in the process. You have an angel waiting for you.
As you rightly point out, knowing that you can become pregnant (and apparently relatively easily) is a good thing. I will keep watching your blog for good news. If I get some on my end, I will send to you for encouragement. I just got married in January, and we tried for a few months before discovering that I had a crop of things in my uterus that could interfere with implantation. In August I had at least six cysts removed. We tried in conceive in September, I was out of town in October, and we had the one unsuccessful IUI in November. I’m not freaking out, but I’m only willing to try this for a few more months before going to another plan. I think that would probably be IVF with “snowflakes.” To be honest, I don’t think either my husband or I genetically bring that much to the table, and if my own eggs are reluctant to implant or grow, I can take that hint. (And how fair would it be for the child to have my husband’s genetic material, but not mine? No, no, no. And I do love my husband, but that seems intrinsically inequitable.)
Merry Christmas to you and yours. Thanks again for your insightful blog.
Ellen
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March 8, 2008 at 10:40 am
mertle said,
April 30, 2008 at 1:17 pm
Thanks so much for your honesty, I can seriously relate. This thing if infertilty, IVF, IUI, etc. is a process and it comes with severe ups and downs–don’t give up.
Mertle